Managing your Mind-set for 2018!

Do you ever feel like you have thoughts or feelings that hold you back from doing what you really want to do?

Do you worry about the consequences of following your dreams?  Maybe you feel very unconfident and worry about how you appear to others, or you worry about what you 'should be' doing?

You might also be experiencing anxiety or feel stuck about where you are, or aren't in your life right now...time feels like it's running out, or you're still doing the wrong things!

First of all I want you to know that all of these feelings are completely normal.  You are not alone in thinking and feeling this way and even the most confident person will at some stage have feelings similar to this at one time or another.

In today's video I go into this in a bit more detail, sharing a case-study with you about someone who felt just like this. I also share a simple exercise that you can do to start un-blocking these blocks and feeling differently about how you approach things.

So, just click on the video below to get this party started...

I hope you found this useful as a starting point for you if you're feeling this way.  I'd also love to hear from you about how you've overcome your own blocks and feelings that don't serve you.

I must say that this is the start of a very important dialogue that I will be continuing over the next few weeks.  As well as this I'll be sharing with you some exciting new offers I'll be making to you if you'd like to know more about how you can start to make some big changes for yourself this year.

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Have an amazing week...you really can smash this year!

Planning 2018!....4 steps to get your plan underway.

Do you make a plan for your year ahead?

If you do what does that look like?  Do you just jot down a few things on paper about what you'd like to see happen that year?  Maybe you just make a mental note about a few things, or maybe you're the kind of person that announces a resolution or two to all you know via social media?

I've always taken the planning of my New Year really seriously. By seriously, I mean that I literally take a day or two out to plan ahead and get clear on what I'd like to do that year.

Serious doesn't mean not fun though, as this planning session is often an opportunity to go away somewhere nice and punctuate the planning with nice walks, food and reading....all designed to inspire the process.  I also get to indulge another fetish of mine which is beautiful notebooks and other stationery items, but that for another time.

In my opinion and in my experience, if you don't plan you're floundering, and although that might be OK for those people who don't like to think about the future or have won the lottery (!), it's not the life for me.  In my experience both in my own life and with the clients I work with, planning ahead gives you the best chance of actually achieving what you want to achieve, whether that's as simple as moving house, or losing weight or starting your own business.

None of these things happen by themselves or for that mater by accident!

This kind of planning process is something that I also do with all of my clients as we take time out to look at the main things they would like to accomplish that year and then take some time out scheduling when they might happen.  So, in today's video I share with you an insight into how to get the ball rolling with this process, as planning and scheduling time for what you want to do is a big part of APE.  So let's get stuck in...

I’d really love to hear your thoughts on planning for the year ahead?

What works for you?  What doesn't work for you?

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Tis next week!

Hibernating Apes...

Did you know that apes hibernate?

Tee hee, well they do over at Ape...!

This week we are taking some time out to relax, rejuvenate, read (a lot!), and r....eat!

We are also taking time away from social media...are you?  It's such a great opportunity to do this, and very good for your mind and soul.

We are however looking forward to being back next year with a series of videos to help you kick start the New Year, including upcoming blogs about Planning for 2018, Managing your Mind-set as well as more car Karaokes, interviews with experts in Yoga, Lucid Dreaming and Out of Body Experiences (I mean wow!), and a fab interview with someone from the National Brain Bank (not for those that are squeamish).

Also rather excitingly we will be launching our first Training programmes so do watch out for those!

We hope that you're enjoying some down time, and don't forget if you want to be the first to get APE directly into your in-box every week, as well being the first to find out about the new APE training then sign up to the Mailing Lost by clicking HERE.

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Till next year...let's make it a good'un!

Merry Christmas from APE!

What are you doing for Christmas this year?

Will you spending it with family?

Adopted family or friends?

Maybe you will be with your animals or will you be alone this year?

Maybe you'll be doing a bit of all of the above!

Whatever it is you're doing, I hope that you'll be taking some time to stop and breathe and that you can find some time to have a bit of fun and playfulness and do what you want to do, not falling into the trap of doing what you think you should be doing, which is often what happens at this time of year.

It's funny how one of the most joyous and wonderful times of the year often turns into one of the most stressful.  It often becomes a time when instead if doing what we want to do we very easily slip into other's expectations of us.

I've worked with a lot of people this year who do this. I've done this myself over the years and what ends up happening is that we feel resentful and even more exhausted than before the Christmas break!

AT APE we are all about finding what makes you happy, and breaking through those mental blocks, barriers and worries in a way that ultimately allows you to feel like you're living a fulfilled life.

I hope that this Christmas you're able to harness a bit of this.  I hope that you get to have fun, feel recalibrated and connected, and also that you feel the excitement of the New Year ahead.

I'll be sharing some things with you over the next few weeks that will help you with this, but in the meantime, our video this week is a reminder to play, have fun and laugh!

Merry Christmas!

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Are you sick of being told you need to HUSTLE?...

If you want to make changes in your life and really achieve anything, you NEED to Hustle!

You also need to give 110%, while being your authentic self, but don't forget that you need to be vulnerable and own your shame, all the while you are living your passion...of course with the help of your tribe!....AAGGGGHH!

Do you ever feel quite frankly sick and tired of hearing this vacuous advice, from people who either don't seem to be doing it themselves or do seem to have it all, and now sit on their throne of contentment all the while telling everyone else what to do?

As someone who works in this space, I've felt agitated and frustrated for some time, by the overuse of this kind of language.  I also know that many of my clients feel the same way, as they tell me they don't like using certain words or hearing words that they find unhelpful, as they are striving and working so hard to build more fulfilling lives and businesses for themselves.

I can't lie. I'm guilty of using some of these words and phrases myself, but I do try and limit when I use them, and also feel myself cringing sometimes when I do.  Sadly what may have been a powerful phrase seems to be banded around with such abandon, that somehow it's become the lingo of the self-proclaimed success stories, and quite frankly the many charlatans out there!

So today, in honour of this conversation I've taken a very APE look, i.e. cheeky, fun and full of play (with a big dose of sarcasm) at this issue.  But before you dive in, I want to be super clear that although I've chosen a 'coach' as the main character in today's piece, I am not saying for one moment that this sits on the door of only the coaches out there!  No siree Bob!  On-line marketeers, on-line entrepreneurs, 'self-helpy' peeps and authors are all guilty of this.

And anyway 'some of my best friends are coaches'...wink wink!

Enjoy...

Gulp!  What did you think?  "Did this resonate for yoooooouu?" LOL!

I'd really love to hear your thoughts on this controversial topic.  Do you feel bombarded with this kind of language or do you love it and wish you could speak it yourself?  Do you find it helpful or unhelpful?  Please comment below, or indeed pop over to our Facebook page (and new free closed group) to continue this fascinating chat.

 Til next week.

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What's your relationship with money?...

Money.

When you read this word, what comes to mind for you?

Do you think of your savings or lack of?  Do you think of the fact that you feel content and happy with what you have financially, or would you like to have more?

Do you begin to think of your work and what you do, and how you feel your income reflects your worth or indeed how it doesn't?

Do you think about the fact that you would like to earn more of your own money versus relying on another, maybe a spouse or parent or even relying on loans that you've taken out?

In my work as a psychologist and helping people to make changes in their life, I have yet to work with anyone where money isn't part of the conversation.  Why?  Well, money is intricately woven into the fabric of our lives. The money we have or don't have is expressed in the work we do, the holidays we take, the friends we keep, the car we drive as well as how we feel and how we relate to the life we live and life we portray.

In today's video I begin this important conversation about money, and offer a simple but powerful exercise you can try which will help you begin to unravel your own relationship with money...click below to get stuck in.

I hope you do try this exercise.

I do this with most of my clients, especially when they are looking at starting a business or leaving a job. The power of understanding your relationship with money will enable you to do things like allow you to increase your earning potential and even take away any angst you might be feeling about the topic.

I'd love to hear how this goes for you, and if you're brave enough maybe you will even share what blocks or interesting things you discovered?

Until next week!

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